I thought I should write to explain why we’re taking you to the other side of the world. I know you’re looking forward to escaping this rain and seeing the dazzling-white beaches we’ve shown you in the pictures, but I know you don’t really understand what it all means yet. To be honest, many of the grown ups around us are struggling to get their head around our decision. I just want to make sure you to grow up knowing why we did it.
You see, before any of you arrived, your daddy and I went travelling…
During our round-the-world trip a few years ago, we spent three months driving a camper van around Australia. We took in lungful of clear air, we strolled along deserted beaches, we drank freshly brewed coffee in pavement cafes, we flew kites on windswept hills, we saw flaming red sunsets, we paddled with dolphins, we actually saw the night sky for the very first time, we sailed to pristine islands on a tall ship, we watched turtles scramble onto the beach to lay eggs, we swam with sharks, we woke to the sound of kookaburras, we walked in the tropical rain, we snorkelled over reefs teeming with colourful fish, we tasted wine from boutique vineyards, we drove straight for hours without seeing another car and we grew together by sharing the experience. We were alive in a way we’d never been before.
During the trip, we met a lot of retired English couples taking a break in the sun. All of them told us they’d dreamed of emigrating when they were young. We saw the flecks of regret in their eyes and we heard their pleas for us to make every second count. They told us they wished they could go back to being our age and make their choices all over again, because they would choose differently. They would take the risk. They would do what was right for them, not what was right for others. They told us how they wished they could be where we were, at the start of our lives together with adventures still to look forward to. These meetings made us feel infinite and fragile at the same time – we had everything to live for and our whole lives in front of us, but it was terrifying to see how this decision of whether to emigrate was a major fork in the road that we needed to face.
We came home to find out we were expecting you boys, and the thought of tearing you away from your grandparents was too much to think about, so we decided to stay. But our longing for somewhere else has never left us. We have a thirst for something, and we need to follow it. Not just for us, but for you too. We don’t want you to be scared to follow your dreams.
Australia is our dream, but it’s all about you too. We’re doing this for you. I can’t promise it’s going to be a smooth or perfect transition. I can’t even promise we’re all going to love it and stay there forever. What I do know is that we have to try because, if not, your daddy and I will be one of those couples in twenty years wondering if we made the right choices for you. We hope this move introduces you to the big wide world. We hope you’re inspired to learn about nature, the environment, space, geology and wildlife like we were when we first travelled to Australia . We hope we get to spend lots more time outside together in the sunshine, enjoying our precious family time.
It’s a huge decision for us to make on your behalf, and we’ve spent five years debating to make sure it’s the right one. Nothing in my life has ever felt so right (apart from maybe marrying your daddy, but don’t tell him that as it’ll make him big-headed).
I can’t imagine where we’ll be five years from now. Will you three have Aussie accents? Will we own our own home over there? Will it have a pool or be near the beach? Will the three of you be enjoying school? Will we have moved back to the UK, accepting the financial loss from a move in both directions? I can’t answer any of those things, but what I can say is your daddy and I will carry on making decisions with you at the heart of them. We will both do absolutely anything for you, as your happiness is the most important thing in the world to us.
I hope you enjoy our new life on the other side of the world, and that it’s everything we’re dreaming of for you.
All my love,
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You can read all about our journey so far on the Our Oz Adventure page