I read a really great post by Emma from Crazy with Twins recently all about the results of the DNA test for twins she had done to prove whether her girls were identical or non-identical. Waiting for the results felt a little like waiting on the results from X Factor, only there wasn’t a winner – it didn’t matter whether they turned out to be id or non-id as they were still a pair of gorgeous, healthy girls!
It reminded me of fun conversations at our local twin club back in the UK where a few parents swore blind their children were non-identical despite the rest of us being convinced they were definitely ID. It’s a really odd thing that parents can always see the difference in children, even with they look so alike to everyone else. A few of my friends are 100% sure there kids are non-id, and they have no inclination to have a test done to tell them whether it’s true or not; their belief is enough for them.
My boys came out looking different. Yes, they are both blonde with the same coloured blue eyes but each take after a different side of the family. T1 has fine, wavy hair, he has a nose full or freckles and his facial features are just like my side of the family, whereas T2 is much taller, has thick, straight hair and definitely looks like his dad. People that give them a quick glance say they look the same, but when you stand them next to one another it’s obvious (I think!) that they are non-identical.
When I had my first pregnancy scan with them back in May 2009, the sonographer told me I was expecting non-identical twins (you can read about the experience here in a guest post I wrote for Christmas Pie Crafts) as they had separate placentas and sacs. The sonographer at the next scan told me the same, as did every midwife I saw through my pregnancy. But even with separate sacs and placentas, same sex twins can still turn out to be identical as I know friends who’ve been through the DNA test and received positive results. According to BabyCentre, a third of identical twins are born with separate placentas and sacs.
The question is, should it matter? Why is it important to find out if your twins are identical or not?
For me, I’d want a definitive answer to the question you get asked constantly. If I felt there was a chance of them being identical I’d have probably had the test done soon after birth, just because I’m so nosey and I wouldn’t be able to wait around for that sort of information. I have no idea why I’d need to know so badly – whatever the result, it wouldn’t matter to me as twins are just as precious whether they’re identical or non-identical, but I know I’d feel the need to know either way! Maybe it’s because I’m too impatient.
What do you think? Would you get a DNA test done if you had twins that looked similar? Have you had the test done? Does it even matter? Do do you think my boys look identical (I can’t see it myself, but then maybe I’m exactly like my friends I mentioned above)? Could you make the decision not to get the test done and be happy not ever knowing if they were id or non-id?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
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