People tend to say very silly things to parents of multiples. I’ve written about it before here. I’m amazed at some of the things people come out with. Now that I have two toddlers AND a little baby I’m greeted with “ah, you’ve got your hands full” about a million times more than ever. But the phrase that beats them all is “well, at least you’re done now”.
People used to say that to me all the time when I just had the boys. Everyone seems to think that two children = a family, so having two at once means automatically that you don’t need to bother going through it all again. Most of my friends have decided to stick at two children. Two seems to be the norm.
When we announced we were having another baby it surprised everyone. Once people got over the shock, they asked “are you sure there isn’t another one hiding?” This joke got a bit thin but what was worse was everyone followed it up with “let’s hope it’s a girl this time”. We didn’t care what we were having; I knew how incredibly lucky we were to have our two boys and whether it was a boy or a girl wouldn’t have mattered one bit. I admit I’m so excited it was a girl, just so that I have an excuse to fill the house with pink, flowery things. But I do kind of miss buying tiny jumpers with diggers on them.
Anyway, here we are now with a pair of just-turned-three year olds, an utterly crazy labradoodle puppy and a three month old baby. Most people look at us while we on an outing with pity. They can’t understand why we’d want such a manic life. Somebody even said to me that in a few years we can get our lives back.
Ok, the tantrums might be hard work times two, juggling a crying baby while trying to stop the boys from climbing on the dog might drive me insane and going for a walk with the boys tied to me on Boomereins while pushing a buggy is certainly a skill to master. But personally I’m trying to treasure these times, not rush through them, as for all I know my house might never be this crazy again.
Then again, I might well prove all of those “at least you’re done now” people wrong by having one more… Does having four under four trump having three under three?*
*Sorry Husband if you’re reading this, that was a joke and I didn’t mean to scare you. I’ll at least wait another year before deciding whether I want any more 😉